Category Archives: relationships

How Great Leaders Motivate Other People

I’ve been exploring employee motivation and how great leaders motivate other people. This topic comes up frequently in my coaching practice: If it weren’t hard enough to motivate ourselves when tired or bored, it’s even harder to persuade others into action. At one time, it was believed that you used rewards (carrots) to encourage behaviors and […]
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Friends at Work:
A Leader’s Guide to Self-Disclosure

For people to become friends at work, it’s not enough to talk shop—both people need to share personal details about themselves. But how much is enough, or too much? As any relationship between two people grows, the level of self-disclosure needs to grow.
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Friends at Work:
Three Types of Friendships

Many of us have friends at work, while others, including leaders and C-level executives, seem to struggle making friends in a workplace environment.  Why is that?
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Great Leaders Make Friends at Work

Great leaders who have friends at work certainly seem to have more fun on the job. But did you know that leaders with workplace friendships make better decisions, are more engaged in work, more committed, and productive?
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People-Pleasing Leaders:
The Good, Bad, and the Ugly

Sometimes I hear colleagues complain that their boss is too nice. They work for a people-pleasing leader. Working for someone who always wants to be liked is frustrating. People-pleasing leaders tend to waffle, try to please everyone, and don’t make decisions easily for fear of disappointing someone. That’s a breeding ground for mistrust. Even though […]
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The Risks of Working for a People Pleaser

Working for someone who is a people-pleaser may seem fairly innocuous or even desirable, but such leaders pose daunting challenges for their organizations. If you work for a people-pleaser, you most likely see the inherent problems and confess to seeking ways to maneuver around them. People-pleasing leaders have some beneficial traits, but their behaviors can […]
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Authentic Leaders Earn Respect

I’ve been exploring what it takes for leaders to develop into more authentic leaders. Being respected begins with showing respect to others, both upline and downline in your organization. Model respect for everyone and it will be contagious. The phrase “leading by example” is more than a suggestion. Leaders who model the behavior they want […]
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The Inner Game of Leading Others

I’ve been thinking a lot about how leaders change themselves to become more influential and effective. My last post talked about The Inner Game of Golf, a book by Timothy Gallwey. Gallwey introduced us to thinking about our inner vs. outer worlds. Whether applied to sports or to work, the inner game is where we […]
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Self-Management: Bringing the Whole Person to Work

I’ve been reading about self-managing companies who operate without a hierarchical pyramid. Frederic Laloux believes we can reinvent work for the future with a self-organizing organizational model. In Reinventing Organizations: A Guide to Creating Organizations Inspired by the Next Stage of Human Consciousness (Nelson Parker, 2014), Laloux calls this stage Evolutionary-Teal. Now, in the work I […]
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How to Use Social Signals in Conversations

I’ve been intrigued by new research about how we communicate and send social signals during conversations. New technology — the sociometer that measures our natural behaviors in the workplace — is revealing how people interact and work together. But for now, most of us don’t wear devices and don’t have the ability to dissect subtle message […]
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