Category Archives: communication

Egotistic Leaders: 4 Steps to Tame the Beast

  Egotistic leaders: it seems they’re everywhere. At least, it seems so, if you watch the news or have been reading my recent posts on working for a leader with a big ego.
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Countering Egotistic Leadership:
Taking Ground Back

Egotistic leadership can be countered. But it takes a deliberate effort on the part of leaders to refocus and see things from a wider view. Trained coaches are an excellent resource to guide leaders to a helpful perspective. In some cases, a leader can only make progress on becoming less egotistical through working with an experienced […]
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Here’s Why Egotistic Leadership Doesn’t Work

Egotistic leadership not only affects people, but the whole organization suffers. Because of the egotist leader’s disinterest in other viewpoints, they cannot work constructively with those who disagree. They won’t accept or learn from feedback, and it doesn’t take long for feedback to be stifled altogether. A distorted take on reality leads to the egotist’s […]
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How Leaders with Big Ego Are Less Effective

For any leader, the risks of big ego are magnified. An inflated perception of oneself distorts reality, both inwardly and outwardly. Author Ryan Holiday, in his book, Ego Is the Enemy (Penguin, 2016), explores what drives this behavior: Egotists regard themselves as superior, set apart from everyone else. They are entitled and important simply because […]
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Is Your Boss a People-Pleaser?

Anyone who’s ever worked for a boss who was a people pleaser knows how challenging that can be. Understanding what goes on inside people-pleasers’ heads can help us work with them. According to Dr. Beatrice Chestnut, author of The 9 Types of Leadership: Mastering the Art of People in the 21st Century Workplace (Post Hill […]
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People-Pleasing Leaders:
The Good, Bad, and the Ugly

Sometimes I hear colleagues complain that their boss is too nice. They work for a people-pleasing leader. Working for someone who always wants to be liked is frustrating. People-pleasing leaders tend to waffle, try to please everyone, and don’t make decisions easily for fear of disappointing someone. That’s a breeding ground for mistrust. Even though […]
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How to Speed Up Self-Awareness:
Listen to Your Self-Talk

It’s not always easy to uncover our blind spots and gain real self-awareness. One way is to write down your self-talk, using the exact words you use. Do this several times over the course of a week, and you’ll uncover a lot about how you think and perceive the world. This self-awareness exercise is more […]
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Self-Awareness: Listen to Your Inner Monologue

One of the hallmarks of an effective leader is self-awareness. Being self-aware helps us understand others, to be sensitive to blind spots, and gain trust and respect. But it’s one of the hardest qualities to build. I ran across a book that has some helpful suggestions: Leadership Step by Step: Becoming the Person Others Follow, […]
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Authentic Leaders Earn Trust

I’ve been exploring what it takes for leaders to become more authentic leaders. According to author Karissa Thacker in The Art of Authenticity (Wiley, 2016), becoming more authentic involves several key leadership mandates: Be self-aware Earn respect Connect with people Convey credibility Earn trust You can earn trust by practicing these four attributes: self-awareness, respect, […]
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How Do Authentic Leaders
Convey Credibility?

I’ve been exploring how authentic leaders build authenticity by addressing five areas: self-awareness, respect, connecting, credibility and trust. How do authentic leaders come across as truly credible? For one thing, people don’t believe leaders who exhibit questionable behavior. If a leader shows flexible morality in one arena, they are not going to be perceived as […]
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