Category Archives: coaching

Egotistic Leaders: 4 Steps to Tame the Beast

  Egotistic leaders: it seems they’re everywhere. At least, it seems so, if you watch the news or have been reading my recent posts on working for a leader with a big ego.
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Countering Egotistic Leadership:
Taking Ground Back

Egotistic leadership can be countered. But it takes a deliberate effort on the part of leaders to refocus and see things from a wider view. Trained coaches are an excellent resource to guide leaders to a helpful perspective. In some cases, a leader can only make progress on becoming less egotistical through working with an experienced […]
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Here’s Why Egotistic Leadership Doesn’t Work

Egotistic leadership not only affects people, but the whole organization suffers. Because of the egotist leader’s disinterest in other viewpoints, they cannot work constructively with those who disagree. They won’t accept or learn from feedback, and it doesn’t take long for feedback to be stifled altogether. A distorted take on reality leads to the egotist’s […]
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How Leaders with Big Ego Are Less Effective

For any leader, the risks of big ego are magnified. An inflated perception of oneself distorts reality, both inwardly and outwardly. Author Ryan Holiday, in his book, Ego Is the Enemy (Penguin, 2016), explores what drives this behavior: Egotists regard themselves as superior, set apart from everyone else. They are entitled and important simply because […]
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The Risks of Working for a
Leader with Big Ego

If you’ve ever worked for someone with a big ego, then you know how frustrating it can be. Nothing can be more debilitating in an organization. Leaders with out-of-control egos are responsible for huge losses in productivity and profits. “Ego is the invisible line item on every company’s profit and loss statement.”—David Marcum and Steven […]
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What You Can Do If You’re a People-Pleaser

It may be a struggle for people-pleaser leaders to identify their traits, so it’s important for seasoned colleagues or a leadership coach to employ tested approaches when working with them. According to Dr. Beatrice Chestnut, author of The 9 Types of Leadership: Mastering the Art of People in the 21st Century Workplace (Post Hill Press, […]
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The Risks of Working for a People Pleaser

Working for someone who is a people-pleaser may seem fairly innocuous or even desirable, but such leaders pose daunting challenges for their organizations. If you work for a people-pleaser, you most likely see the inherent problems and confess to seeking ways to maneuver around them. People-pleasing leaders have some beneficial traits, but their behaviors can […]
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Build Self Awareness: Write Down Your Beliefs

I’ve been writing about self awareness, how to listen to your inner monologue, and how to improve the quality of your connections to others through self-knowledge. This next exercise builds on the previous exercise where you simply write down your inner monologue. It is a little harder because it requires you to pay attention to […]
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How to Speed Up Self-Awareness:
Listen to Your Self-Talk

It’s not always easy to uncover our blind spots and gain real self-awareness. One way is to write down your self-talk, using the exact words you use. Do this several times over the course of a week, and you’ll uncover a lot about how you think and perceive the world. This self-awareness exercise is more […]
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Self-Awareness: Listen to Your Inner Monologue

One of the hallmarks of an effective leader is self-awareness. Being self-aware helps us understand others, to be sensitive to blind spots, and gain trust and respect. But it’s one of the hardest qualities to build. I ran across a book that has some helpful suggestions: Leadership Step by Step: Becoming the Person Others Follow, […]
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