Category Archives: career

People-Pleasing Leaders:
The Good, Bad, and the Ugly

Sometimes I hear colleagues complain that their boss is too nice. They work for a people-pleasing leader. Working for someone who always wants to be liked is frustrating. People-pleasing leaders tend to waffle, try to please everyone, and don’t make decisions easily for fear of disappointing someone. That’s a breeding ground for mistrust. Even though […]
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The Risks of Working for a People Pleaser

Working for someone who is a people-pleaser may seem fairly innocuous or even desirable, but such leaders pose daunting challenges for their organizations. If you work for a people-pleaser, you most likely see the inherent problems and confess to seeking ways to maneuver around them. People-pleasing leaders have some beneficial traits, but their behaviors can […]
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Build Self Awareness: Write Down Your Beliefs

I’ve been writing about self awareness, how to listen to your inner monologue, and how to improve the quality of your connections to others through self-knowledge. This next exercise builds on the previous exercise where you simply write down your inner monologue. It is a little harder because it requires you to pay attention to […]
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Self-Awareness: Listen to Your Inner Monologue

One of the hallmarks of an effective leader is self-awareness. Being self-aware helps us understand others, to be sensitive to blind spots, and gain trust and respect. But it’s one of the hardest qualities to build. I ran across a book that has some helpful suggestions: Leadership Step by Step: Becoming the Person Others Follow, […]
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Do You Have an Open Mind?

Do you maintain an open mind? Is it possible to learn more about yourself even late in your career and life? Or, at some point, do we stop questioning and decide “that’s just the way we are?” I think these questions are important. In the work I do as a coach, I encounter both responses […]
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How Well Do You Know Yourself?

How well do you think you know yourself? Self-awareness is key to success in work, life, and relationships. I would say that it is the foundation of strong character, giving us the ability to lead with a sense of purpose, authenticity, openness, and trust. “Knowing yourself, and knowing the forces that affect the people who […]
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How Do Authentic Leaders
Convey Credibility?

I’ve been exploring how authentic leaders build authenticity by addressing five areas: self-awareness, respect, connecting, credibility and trust. How do authentic leaders come across as truly credible? For one thing, people don’t believe leaders who exhibit questionable behavior. If a leader shows flexible morality in one arena, they are not going to be perceived as […]
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Authentic Leaders Earn Respect

I’ve been exploring what it takes for leaders to develop into more authentic leaders. Being respected begins with showing respect to others, both upline and downline in your organization. Model respect for everyone and it will be contagious. The phrase “leading by example” is more than a suggestion. Leaders who model the behavior they want […]
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Why Authentic Leaders Need to Be Self Aware

In just about every article and book I read about authentic leaders, we learn how self-awareness is a cornerstone to authenticity. There are good reasons for this. Authentic leaders know themselves well, notes Brenda Ellington Booth, a clinical professor of management at Northwestern University’s Kellogg School of Business. When leaders are self-aware, they recognize their […]
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Are You the Authentic Leader
Your People Need?

Are you really the authentic leader your people want you to be? Many leaders are unaware of how their lack of authenticity chips away at people, breeding dissatisfaction, distrust and disloyalty. Organizational effectiveness and productivity suffer when workers view leaders as inauthentic. One out of three people distrusts his or her employer, according to the […]
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