Monthly Archives: May 2017

What You Can Do If You’re a People-Pleaser

It may be a struggle for people-pleaser leaders to identify their traits, so it’s important for seasoned colleagues or a leadership coach to employ tested approaches when working with them. According to Dr. Beatrice Chestnut, author of The 9 Types of Leadership: Mastering the Art of People in the 21st Century Workplace (Post Hill Press, […]
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Is Your Boss a People-Pleaser?

Anyone who’s ever worked for a boss who was a people pleaser knows how challenging that can be. Understanding what goes on inside people-pleasers’ heads can help us work with them. According to Dr. Beatrice Chestnut, author of The 9 Types of Leadership: Mastering the Art of People in the 21st Century Workplace (Post Hill […]
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People-Pleasing Leaders:
The Good, Bad, and the Ugly

Sometimes I hear colleagues complain that their boss is too nice. They work for a people-pleasing leader. Working for someone who always wants to be liked is frustrating. People-pleasing leaders tend to waffle, try to please everyone, and don’t make decisions easily for fear of disappointing someone. That’s a breeding ground for mistrust. Even though […]
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The Risks of Working for a People Pleaser

Working for someone who is a people-pleaser may seem fairly innocuous or even desirable, but such leaders pose daunting challenges for their organizations. If you work for a people-pleaser, you most likely see the inherent problems and confess to seeking ways to maneuver around them. People-pleasing leaders have some beneficial traits, but their behaviors can […]
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Build Self Awareness: Write Down Your Beliefs

I’ve been writing about self awareness, how to listen to your inner monologue, and how to improve the quality of your connections to others through self-knowledge. This next exercise builds on the previous exercise where you simply write down your inner monologue. It is a little harder because it requires you to pay attention to […]
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How to Speed Up Self-Awareness:
Listen to Your Self-Talk

It’s not always easy to uncover our blind spots and gain real self-awareness. One way is to write down your self-talk, using the exact words you use. Do this several times over the course of a week, and you’ll uncover a lot about how you think and perceive the world. This self-awareness exercise is more […]
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Self-Awareness: Listen to Your Inner Monologue

One of the hallmarks of an effective leader is self-awareness. Being self-aware helps us understand others, to be sensitive to blind spots, and gain trust and respect. But it’s one of the hardest qualities to build. I ran across a book that has some helpful suggestions: Leadership Step by Step: Becoming the Person Others Follow, […]
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How to Build and Expand Your Self-Awareness

How self-aware are you? Self awareness is one of the foundations of emotional intelligence and being able to lead others. I’ve been writing about the importance of knowing yourself well here. The key to building better self awareness is feedback. Have you asked others for feedback about yourself?
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